Okay....it's stupid question time.....
Need some advice on a situation guys...Not sure what to do or if I should do anything...it's just bugging the hell out of me...
Hayley has informed me that over her Dad's house...Doug and Lynn's kids get an allowance for chores they do over there...Okay that's fine...But when Hayley's over there and does chores as well...They feel they should not give her any money as she get's an allowance from me...but that's only for chores that she does at my house...I don't pay her extra do to chores at her Dad's...I figured that was his department...When I asked Mike he said well...He could see them saying that as Doug does pay child support so in theory, he does contribute to Hayley's allowance for here...Somehow I am sure that makes sense...just can't see it as yet..When she's at her Dad's her chores are to pick up all the pine needles outside, dishes (All day) and help Ally clean up her room (Which means Hayley pretty much cleans it up herself) and some times vacumning and dusting and moping...given what they are doing...
The thing is...our allowances for the kids are based on what they do here...With the exception of Kitchen trash and dinner dishes (only dinner dishes...not anything else)...all chores can easily be done during the week...This was done to account for the weekends Hayley was at her Dad's so she didn't really get out of her chores for here...If it falls that her chore is dinner dishes...She does extra during the week to make up for the weekends she's at her Dad's...(She'll do all the dishes when she's home with me on my weekends)
So now here's the idiot question....Am I making a big deal out of this??? I can understand Hayley being upset about this...She feels she's being jipped somewhat...I am looking at this from every possible angle before I go back to Doug and ask him about this (Hayley has asked me to think about it) With things the way they are between us...it's not going to be easy...
What do you guys think???? Be honest....Tell me I'm being an idiot if that's what you think....
3 Comments:
Jeez, let me think on it. We'll discuss it tomorrow, Ok?
Having lived in a blended family, I can tell you firsthand that allowances in both homes are fair. If Hayley's more a 'guest' when she visits, then she shouldn't have chores. If she has work she's expected to do, then she should get something for it, just as her siblings do in that household. She's not going over to Doug's to be slave labor, she's supposed to be going there to be with her dad. I don't know how you'll manage to make this point to Doug and the loon, though. I wish you luck!
hahaha! You're so right...
I have a slight feeling that Doug doesn't realize that Hayley makes sure all her chores are done before she goes over there...I think he figures that she's skipping chores at my house when she's at his house and so he should make that up...I am beginning to think this could be something as simple as that...I dunno...He's popping over this morning to give me my child support check before I leave so maybe I'll chat with him then....
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